Writing an Obituary

Begin with name, age and place of residence of the deceased, along with the date of death. Many people wonder whether to give out the cause of death in an obituary. The cause of death is the business of the immediate family and no one else’s. The cause of death can be listed in many ways: passed away after a long/short illness, surrounded by her/his family, after a long struggle with cancer or suddenly. Do not list anything if you are not comfortable with sharing the cause of death. 

The most important part is listing survivor first than family members that passed away. Start with the closest relations: spouse, children, siblings, parents, grandchildren, great grandchildren. Grandchildren and greats grandchildren are often numbers because the family is large or to avoid leaving anyone out. Nieces, nephews, cousins and friends are usually left out or a general statement “survived by many nieces, nephews, cousins and friends”.

Leave this part to your funeral director.

List the most important events, qualities, accomplishments or connections in a person’s life (place of employment or social clubs, etc.).

The end of the obituary is the place for a special message or donation. The words “in lieu of flowers” in obituary means that the family prefers not to receive flowers.     

Photos are optional but add to the cost of an obituary in a newspaper.

Smith, John L. “nickname”

Of Everett on May 31st, age 80, surrounded by his family. Beloved husband of Mary (maiden name). Loving father of William and his wife Colleen of Everett, Pamela and her husband Chris of Everett and the late James. Brother of Anthony, Mary Rocco and the late Paul. Also survived by 6 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren. John will be missed by many nieces, nephews and friends. Funeral from the Salvatore Rocco & Sons Funeral Home, 331 Main Street, Everett (funeral director will complete this section). John was a Police Officer for over 30 years. He loved watching sports with his children and grandchildren. In lieu of flowers, donations in John's memory may be made to the charity of your choice.

Smith, Anne (maiden name) 

Of Saugus, formerly of Everett, age 94 on May 31st. Beloved wife of the late Anthony. Devoted mother to James and his wife Debra, Anthony Jr. and his wife Kathy and Anne Chapman and her husband Michael.  Loving sister of the late Mary (last name)  and Anthony (last name). Also survived by five grandchildren:  Justin, Domenic, Anthony, Emma and Sally. Funeral from the Salvatore Rocco & Sons Funeral Home, 331 Main Street, Everett (funeral director will complete this section). Anne was a vibrant part of her community and volunteered for the public library.  (no donations or special messages)